Purposefully Living Life By Design

Those 9 itinerant years of instability were made exceedingly worse because of the depravity of the abuse I endured. These horrible people hiding behind the facade of altruistic caring for wayward children took advantage of me in every conceivable way. You name the offense, I was the victim.

At the tender age of 9, the bouncing from home to home stopped and I was adopted by a single, white, homosexual man. He was very kind and loving to me. He simply wanted to offer me a chance at a normal life. But the 9 years of abuse not only shattered any innocence and trust I had within me, they had also filled those empty spaces the innocence and trust left behind, with a seething and venomous hate. And I didn’t hate other people, but I had no idea that a normal relationship with an adult could be possible. The hatred was for myself. When those people did those deplorable things to me, they also stole any sense of self-worth I might have had. I sought solace in the comfort of a drug-induced haze and was in and out of treatment facilities by the time I was 14.

This is a lifestyle I would continue surviving through until I was in my 30s. I developed a catastrophic cocaine problem and drank myself into the oblivion of a blackout on a regular basis. I would alternate sleeping on random couches with nights spent freezing under an overpass. By that point, hope of anything better was a foregone conclusion. I had abandoned hope during those first 9 years. Now, the only hope I had was for an early, painless death.

A Fateful Meeting…

At the end of a rapidly fraying rope, I didn’t want to go on. But then I met someone that challenged everything I’d ever believed about what life is and what it could be. And there was no sugarcoating anything with this person. They would not allow me to wade in the puddle of self-pity and blame.

This person helped me to realize that I was the problem. Which was a tough pill to swallow at first after all that had happened to me. But, over time, I began to discover how my thoughts became my actions and my actions became my reality and my truth.

In the same breath that I was taught that I was the problem, it was immediately reiterated that I was also the solution to that problem. It was then that I started holding myself accountable for my behaviors and my attitude. I then began to reconstruct my mindset.

The newfound mindset I began reconstructing became filled with positive thinking. My positive thoughts naturally transformed into positive actions. In time, I found myself exercising, eating healthy, maintaining relationships, and, finally, working through the wreckage of my past.

As I put the ghosts of my past to rest, I began to remember who I was. I began to believe that I was deserving of a fulfilled life. I deserved a life created for me by me.

Today, I am a successful businessman and entrepreneur. I spend my days surrounded by people who love and care for me just as I love and care for them. Today, I have found my tribe. I wake each morning humbly grateful for the opportunity given to me by my maker to be better today than I was yesterday.

I managed to transform from a boy that had been taken advantage of in every possible way by those charged with caring for him, a boy that was so overwhelmed with self-loathing that he could not look at his reflection in the mirror into a man that loves himself exactly as he is. A man that was made in God’s image, which makes him perfect.

Today, I understand that I always had a purpose. Today, I understand that I was given this life by God. Therefore, I have a God-given right to live and to be happy and fulfilled in that life. Just like Heaven on Earth.

This Mastermind course was created to fulfill my purpose. And that purpose is to share with you the tools that I have acquired and used on my life’s journey. Tools that have been so important to me on my journey to living my life by design. Won’t you walk with me and let me give you these tools to have as you make your way on your own life’s journey?